The Sweetest Thing

Millennial friendship is such an anomaly, if you ask me. On one hand, we still very much have the “keeping up with the Jones’” competitive attitude of generations past – look at my new job, new fiancé, new baby, new dog (but no new house, as we are too busy buying avocado toast). On the other hand, we’re the generation throwing convention to the wind, and known for being excruciatingly supportive of it – oh, you want to quit your job to go drive around the US in an air stream trailer? TOTALLY, I’m so into your free spirit!

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Photo taken at the Art of Ice Cream Experience.

That said, millennial friendship can be hard to strike a balance… to find the sweet spot, if you will.

Friendship is a balance of giving deep life advice with an edge of realness, and advising that you buy plane tickets you can’t afford just in the name of life experiences.

It’s a sweet spot somewhere between chatting about work over wine and charcuterie, and diving into a ball pit a The Art of Ice Cream Experience for the sake of an Instagram.

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Photo taken at the Art of Ice Cream Experience.

It’s being real when it counts, and offering to take a million photos to get the “picture perfect” shot when it doesn’t.

It’s about showing up when you’re expected, and even when you’re not, while also respecting the inevitable boundaries of our always-on, career-driven millennial culture.

Friendship knows when to blindly support and when to offer a word of caution. That said, it’s also respecting where and when your opinion is warranted.

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Photo taken at the Art of Ice Cream Experience.

It’s a game of chance. It’s not easy, but relationships between humans inherently aren’t. It’s just as much about finding the sweet spot and recognizing our own humanity and humility, and that of others. It’s knowing that we are all going through life, which is full of twists and turns and mistakes and glorious moments, and knowing how much sweeter it is to do that with a few good friends by your side.

Why I Started a Blog Instagram… Again

Okay, pals. So, by now, most (or at least some) of you know that I restarted a blog-specific Instagram: @sevenafterseven. Even though I intentionally discontinued my last one with the effort to be more present, I also found that an unforeseen consequence of that decision was that I ended up sharing my writing less and less.

Why?

Well, simply put: I didn’t want to bother anyone.

This was a pretty subconscious concern of mine, but once I took some time to reflect on why I hadn’t shared any posts on my social media in a while, I realized that it really did burrow down to that one, self-conscious fact. I didn’t want to litter my friend’s feeds with this blog content that they hadn’t asked for when they started following me way back when. Maybe it was a silly concern, but it was a worry of mine nonetheless, and the more I thought about it, the more it bugged me.

I realize that I could have just gotten over myself and said “who cares, I’m posting blog stuff anyway,” but I didn’t. I know myself too well, and while that attitude may have lasted for a week or maybe two, it wouldn’t be long before I crawled back into my self-conscious hole and stopped sharing my blog posts with the social media world again.

And so, @sevenafterseven was born (or, re-born, if you will).

That said, I have set a few goals for myself with this new Instagram, goals that I hope will differentiate this experience from the one I had as @twentysomethingtaylor.

I want to be authentic. Much as is my goal for this blog, I want the Instagram to reflect my daily journeys through life and faith, and I want to use the platform to show that authentic side of myself with a greater audience.

I want to write more, and share more. This kind of goes back to that 2018 goal I set for myself, and this really is the main purpose of me restarting the Instagram. I figure, if I know that all of the followers to this new handle are there for the purpose of the blog, then I should have no qualms about sharing my writing with those people. Right? Right.

I want to be intentional. Too many times, social media sucks us into ourselves. We post pictures of things we like, we strive for followers just for the sake of having them, and the “social” side of it really gets lost. So as I grow my @sevenafterseven community, I’m truly hoping that I’ll be able to “meet” and interact with all sorts of wonderful, inspirational people, even if it’s just so much as me saying they have a cute dog. I want this to be a very intentional thing for me, and for others, and I want to truly grasp the “social” side of social media.

Well, there you go: the reasons you didn’t ask for as to why I decided to restart the blog’s Instagram.

And, because I’m curious, I throw this question out to my fellow bloggers: what stops you from sharing your work, and how do you overcome that? Leave your answer in the comments, and maybe we can all encourage one another to share ourselves, and our work, more boldly. After all, that is why we’re all here, right?