I owe all of you the biggest of apologies.
I’ve been completely and totally slacking on this whole blogging thing, and for that, I sincerely apologize.
The past month or so has just been jam-packed with activities. Literally. I’ve gone from work to some sort of social event practically every day, and while I love being surrounded by the amazing people in my life, it all gets the best of me sometimes and as such, the blog falls to the wayside.
I originally planned to write a whole spiel on some of the things that have happened in the past few months – I went to Sunriver for a few days with the family, my best friend showed up out of the blue for a surprise weekend home, I rang in 22 with some great friends and awful cornhole, and then I rang it in again with the family and carne asada tacos. And who knows, maybe I will eventually get around to those posts… or maybe I won’t.
For now, I wanted to share with you some tips and tricks on how I’ve been staying sane through all this madness – and trust me, at times that’s been a little tough! Am I the only one who gets so caught up in all the excitement of everything else that they forget to take a second and collect themselves? I hope not (and I don’t think so.)
I’m lucky enough to have a wonderful support system that occasionally reminds me to take my “me time.” I’ve been trying to incorporate it more lately, especially as adulthood winds up and finally hits me full-swing. And I’m not one for meditation, but I do believe in the power of it; I also believe that there are many ways to meditate. Some sit on a yoga mat and find their inner balance. Others, like me, sit on their couch with a glass of Chardonnay and Gilmore girls.
So I’ve rounded up some of my favorite mindfulness tips and tricks, and little things that help me stay stable when things are going a bit crazy.
- Netflix and chill… and not in that way! Okay, okay, so that phrase is a bit provocative now (shout out to the pastor at my church who had to explain it to the unwilling and unimpressed audience one Sunday). But, really, there is so much to be said for a night on the couch with your favorite TV show or movie. And even if you’re not one for wine, treat yourself with something special – whether that’s your favorite chocolate bar, a big bowl of popcorn, whatever. You do you… with you.
- 30 minutes to unwind. Even if your evening plans don’t call for a night on the couch, don’t forget to give yourself a little bit of time to unwind. I have gotten in the habit of not making any plans for at least half an hour after I get off work. That gives me thirty whole minutes to “decompress” and go from work mode to social mode. Otherwise, I’d be thinking about all those things I didn’t get done that day.
- Exercise. I know, I know, everyone says that. But let me tell ya – as a relatively regular runner, being unable to do so properly these past few weeks has really taken its toll. I have had to lower the intensity of my workouts thanks to the meniscus tear in my left knee, and while I’ve been able to walk or lightly ride the stationary bike (no incline, no resistance), it’s just not the same as getting a really good heart-pumping cardio sesh in. It might sound weird, but I’d kill for a 30 minute HIIT workout right about now.
- Let someone take care of you. This sounds silly, especially in a post about how to use your “me time.” But, let’s be real, sometimes that’s just not in the cards. Admittedly, letting people take care of me has never been my strong suit. But with the way things have gone lately, I’m trying to relinquish some of my façade and admit to my best friend when I need a vent session. The little things really are nice sometimes, and letting yourself be spoiled for a moment or two is not the worst thing.
- SLEEP. Again, throw this in there with the state-the-obvious bullets. But, honestly. I know how easy and tempting it can be to give up your 8 hours in favor of a reverse happy hour with that bestie from high school you haven’t seen in forever. And, alright, maybe it is important to see that bestie, too. But maybe let your hair go natural in the morning and save yourself the extra half hour of sleep to make up for it. And there’s nothing wrong with skipping a weekly get together in favor of an early night – you’ll see all those awesome people the next Wednesday, too.
- Find friends. This one’s tricky, because it definitely doesn’t fall into the category of “me time.” And yet, at the same time, it sort of does… because, ultimately, friendship is a key to well being. I’m learning, as I start to navigate these waters of adulthood, that it’s a lot harder to just find friends than it was in college. It’s a big of a cliché, maybe, but at least at school you had the forced fun aspect of all living in one massive dorm room, or being crammed into the same edit bays till the wee hours of the night. Once you’re out of that bubble, you learn that not everybody is always crammed into the same spaces for 8+ hours a day – and the people who are there (aka, coworkers) often have their own lives. The solution I’ve found is to find myself other groups of people who are willingly throwing themselves into social situations. I joined my local networking chapter, and a small group at my church – and I’ve met some really cool people as a result. Even if you don’t hang out with them outside of those activities – having those events is something to look forward to on a semi-regular basis.
All of these things have at least helped me feel a little more grounded when things are going a bit haywire. I like having things I can control, and these are aspects of my life that I am learning that I can.
Granted, I can also control how often I blog but, clearly, that one’s been a bit harder to make myself do. Let’s chalk it up to writer’s block?
I’m going to be more consistent about these posts again – I promise. But until then, I’m going to make sure I have time for Chardonnay and Gilmore girls.